I had a Google chat with Miss Chaneenigans a while back and she asked me the fateful question: How do you decide you want to spend the rest of your life with someone?
I thought for a few minutes. Then I let my heart speak (and cleaned up my typing below because I suck sometimes during a GChat):
The things I know about him are all pretty much good things and make me want to learn all of the things I don't know about him...he gives me what I need from a man, I've effortlessly been more open with him than anyone else, he doesn't judge or care about my past or let HIS past dictate our relationship, he trusts me and I trust him, we are opposites where we need to be oppsite and agree on things where we should...and if we don't agree we at least respect each other's opinions and haven't had any problems compromising.
He really is my best friend...we have tiffs and disagreements but we have a LOT of fun.
It's hard to find all of that in one person, and I can respect that he's not perfect but I think that's where I come in and vice versa...we make a great team most of the time, lol.
And that was my answer. So while I still don't believe in there being one man on the planet out there for me, I DO feel like this one man was perfect for me. We fit together in ways I never imagined two people could even fit together. We are two very unique individuals who love very different things about life, but they just FIT. We do have common goals and morals and beliefs. We do have strong convictions about different things, but are open enough to discuss them and see them from the other person's point of view. We love each other's differences so much that we let each just be each other, and appreciate each other for it...even when we don't feel like dealing with it or don't understand it.
Also, I do believe in signs and that one too many a similar coincidence can be pointing you in a direction. I only say a direction because its not always the best direction, but something is out there saying "Hey! Look at this!" and you should pay attention to it to either embrace it or walk the other way. Besides some of the similarities this man shares with a few of my exes (you like what you like, sometimes it all looks similar, you have to figure out when its only similar and not the same for yourself) we've found a lot of really good coincidences to compare. I wont go into them, because those are ours to share, and maybe it's just because I'm a weird mix of spirituality and nerd, but our coincidences led me to know he was right for me.
Funny thing is,
he wrote this BEFORE he met me...
Those coincidences and commonalities and the fact that he isn't insecure, which is a HUGE thing for me, keep us together. I'm not a cheater. I've never intentionally hurt anyone like that, and I can't see myself doing it. I also don't have time to be with someone who I can't/don't trust or who wont trust me, BUT I need a certain degree of freedom so I can be with my friends or just by my damn self. He gets that.
My friends told me it was supposed to be easy when you find it. I figured that was the case, but I never expected for things to actually be just easy. I was apprehensive at first; I hadn't had anything line up quite like this before. For a while I was waiting on the huge crash. Don't get me wrong, we have our own issues or whatever, but we have no problem talking about them rationally or admitting when we could be doing something differently. So I let go and let myself just be happy.
I guess you could have skipped down to this line but a much simpler answer to why I love him and why I believe we were meant to be is just: Because.
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